Dealing With Our Grief 2-19-2017

Dealing With Grief 2-19-2017
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Hello folks, I am the Reverend Hank Wilson and welcome to the Christian Life Gospel Ministry’s Facing Life, it is our Biblical guide to staying upright when life tries to knock you down.

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There are times in our lives when we will experience sadness maybe we will suffer a loss. Maybe a loved one will pass away, maybe a relationship will end poorly, maybe we lose our jobs, or maybe family member move away. Whatever the situation or reason there are times when we feel sad, and we have to grieve.

Today I want to look at how God ministers to us in our grief, how God can use our grief for good, how we can get over our grief, and how we can comfort others who are grieving.

Join me in a prayer — Dear Heavenly Father, I know that you are in charge of the Universe. I know that you have a grand plan for us. I believe that you sent your Son, my Lord, and Savior Jesus Christ to live and walk among us and to die for us. I believe that you raised Him from the grave and that He sits at your right hand. Father, there are times in my life when I feel a deep sense of grief or I encounter others who are grieving. During these times, I ask that you send the Holy Spirit to me to help me overcome my grief or to give me the ability to bring some degree of comfort to others who might be grieving. Thank you – Amen.




Ferlin Husky, Angel Band
Joe Paul Nichols, I’ve got so many million years

Our scripture reading today is from Psalm 86
Incline Your ear, O Lord, and answer me; For I am afflicted and needy.
2 Preserve my soul, for I am a godly man; O You my God, save Your servant who trusts in You.
3 Be gracious to me, O Lord, For to You I cry all day long.
4 Make glad the soul of Your servant, For to You, O Lord, I lift up my soul.
5 For You, Lord, are good, and ready to forgive, And abundant in lovingkindness to all who call upon You.
6 Give ear, O Lord, to my prayer; And give heed to the voice of my supplications!
7 In the day of my trouble I shall call upon You, For You will answer me.
8 There is no one like You among the gods, O Lord,Nor are there any works like Yours.
9 All nations whom You have made shall come and worship before You, O Lord,
And they shall glorify Your name.
10 For You are great and do wondrous deeds; You alone are God.
11 Teach me Your way, O Lord; I will walk in Your truth; Unite my heart to fear Your name.
12 I will give thanks to You, O Lord my God, with all my heart, And will glorify Your name forever.
13 For Your lovingkindness toward me is great And You have delivered my soul from the depths of Sheol.
14 O God, arrogant men have risen up against me, And a band of violent men have sought my life, And they have not set You before them.
15 But You, O Lord, are a God merciful and gracious, Slow to anger and abundant in lovingkindness and truth.
16 Turn to me, and be gracious to me; Oh grant Your strength to Your servant,
And save the son of Your handmaid.
17 Show me a sign for good, That those who hate me may see it and be ashamed,
Because You, O Lord, have helped me and comforted me.

Wanda Jackson, One day at a time
George Jones, Lilly of the valley

There are times in our lives when we will suffer a loss. Maybe a loved one will pass away, maybe a relationship will end poorly, maybe we lose our jobs, or maybe family member move away. Whatever the situation or reason there are times when we feel sad, and we have to grieve.

Today I want to look at how God ministers to us in our grief, how God can use our grief for good, how we can get over our grief, and how we can comfort others who are grieving.

As usual before I start the main message, join me in a prayer — Dear Heavenly Father, I know that you are in charge of the Universe. I know that you have a grand plan for us. I believe that you sent your Son, my Lord, and Savior Jesus Christ to live and walk among us and to die for us. I believe that you raised Him from the grave and that He sits at your right hand. Father, there are times in my life when I feel a deep sense of grief or I encounter others who are grieving. During these times, I ask that you send the Holy Spirit to me to help me overcome my grief or to give me the ability to bring some degree of comfort to others who might be grieving. Thank you – Amen.

As I mentioned there are times in our lives when we will suffer a loss. Maybe a loved one will pass away, maybe a relationship will end poorly, maybe we lose our jobs, or maybe family member move away. Whatever the situation or reason there are times when we feel sad, and we have to grieve.
How does God minister to us in our grief?




One way is through His personal touch, we read in Psalm 10 Verse 14
You have seen it, for You have beheld mischief and vexation to take it into Your hand. The unfortunate commits himself to You; You have been the helper of the orphan” I realize that when we are in the midst of grieving it is sometimes hard to realize that God is indeed reaching out to us. Sometimes we just cannot feel anything because the feeling of loss is so intense that we block out almost everything else.

It is in those times, that we need to slow down, try and clear out minds and remember that God is all around us and if we simply reach up we’ll be ok. Because then we will recognize that he also reaches us through his presence, and because of that we will be able to overcome what we are going through. I am sure that all of us are familiar with what Psalm 23 Verse 4 says: “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil, for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.” I love the words “Your Rod and Your Staff, they comfort me”, and they do. I think of them as tools God will give me to help me stand straighter, to clear my view, to help me begin to understand what I am going through.

Once my mind clears, I am able to understand that if I simply ask Him for someone to assist me, he will. In Romans Chapter 8 Verses 26 and 27 we read; “ In the same way the Spirit also helps our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words; and He who searches the hearts knows what the mind of the Spirit is, because He intercedes for the saints according to the will of God.” My favorite prayers are always the one where I ask God to send the Holy Spirit to help and He always does. When you bring the Holy Spirit into the equation and you truly accept it, in my case, I get the same feeling as I do after a shower on a hot day. Refreshed, clean and able to focus again, my grief may not have gone away, but I know that God is here with me.

Once I am able to focus again, I understand what Paul was saying in 2 Corinthians 7 Verse 6. “But God, who comforts the depressed, comforted us by the coming of Titus;” Paul was talking about how when he was preaching in Macedonia he felt as if he and his companions were under attack, they were becoming depressed, grieving over what they thought was going on. It is the same thing in our lives, when we are feeling that sense of depression, once we pray and ask God for help, if we look up, we often see someone there to help us.

OK, so now I know God is here to help or He has put someone in my life to help, but how can we get over our grief?

The first thing is to recognize that grief is necessary and important. We need the freedom to grieve. It is an important part of closure because it allows us to honestly express the way we feel. Grief will help release the emotional pressure of sorrow that come from loss in 2 Samuel 18:33 “The king was deeply moved and went up to the chamber over the gate and wept. And thus he said as he walked, “O my son Absalom, my son, my son Absalom! Would I had died instead of you, O Absalom, my son, my son!” If you have lost a parent, or a child, or anyone near and dear to you, that feeling of emptiness from them not being with you any longer can cause us to break down and cry. That is perfectly ok, because if we do not cry, if we do not release that pressure, it can explode and do more harm than good.

We also have to realize that the pain we are feeling will dissipate with time and we will be able to move on. Grief has its season, and its season may last a long while. But eventually God will lead us to move on and comfort others who still grieve. Ecclesiastes 3: verse 1, “There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven” and in verse 4 “A time to weep and a time to laugh; A time to mourn and a time to dance.” We just have to continue to trust that God will help and eventually our feelings will begin to return to normal. Sadly, there are some who just cannot wait for it to pass and they make themselves even more depressed and grief filled. Sometimes, they are so desperate that they turn to drugs or booze and sometimes even suicide because they just cannot handle their grief. We will never fill that inner need with outer stimulation, we can fill it with the Holy Spirit and the pain will pass.

Once we recognize and understand how God helps us with our grief, we can begin to figure out how our grief be used for good?

If we have gone through a tough loss and we have grieved, that grief can help us have the compassion and capability to comfort others. Grief is a teacher that helps us learn to relate to others who are grieving. Remember the words in 2nd Corinthians 1 Verses 4-6. “ who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in]any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For just as the sufferings of Christ are]ours in abundance, so also our comfort is abundant through Chris. But if we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; or if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which is effective in the patient enduring of the same sufferings which we also suffer;”

Once we are comforted then sometimes we can help others who grieve. But how do we do that?
Give them attention, empathy, and comfort. It is difficult to be with someone who is grieving but we should realize that we don’t need to come up with the right words to say or make it all go away. We can’t, our concern and presence will help the grieving person more than we can imagine. In Romans chapter 12 verse 15, “ Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.” We have talked about this before, it is not for us to solve the situation, we cannot magically make the pain go away for the person. We can only be there for them, if they ask for help, if they want to talk, just listen, let the person know that you really truly care. That will be of so much benefit that it is almost unbelievable. They will be grateful that you gave them a shoulder to cry on, maybe a Kleenex to wipe away their tears.

So we know that God comforts us with His touch and His presence. He will either send the Holy Spirit to help or He will make sure that the right human person is there for us. We can get over our grief by relieving the pressure that our feeling of loss is building up inside of us. We will be able to use our grief for good and we can be there for others.

We are all going to suffer loss in our lives, it is a matter of when not if. When we do, then we know that through our belief in Jesus we will be able to overcome our grief.

Remember our starting prayer – Dear Heavenly Father, I know that you are in charge of the Universe. I know that you have a grand plan for us. I believe that you sent your Son, my Lord, and Savior Jesus Christ to live and walk among us and to die for us. I believe that you raised Him from the grave and that He sits at your right hand. Father, there are times in my life when I feel a deep sense of grief or I encounter others who are grieving. During these times, I ask that you send the Holy Spirit to me to help me overcome my grief or to give me the ability to bring some degree of comfort to others who might be grieving. Thank you – Amen.

Going to close out today with music from: Ernest Tubb, and when it’s prayer meeting time.  Until next time, stay strong, stay in prayer, and you can always find me sitting on the porch out in the country, doing my best to live life as a Christian. God Bless y’all

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